how do you deal w real time notifs using microservices imo its a pain

hey everyone im workin on a system with a bunch of microservices and need to do real time notifications like user events status updates etc whats your usual way of broadcasting these events across services without making them too tied together or slowin things down Are WebSockets the only way or are there other patterns like Server-Sent Events or message queues that work better in a microservice setup for this prob im lookin for real advice and what ppl have actually done